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Dude, here it is. People like people similar to themselves and have common interests with similar people. Particular groups of people have shared insights, problems, challenges, sense of humors, etc. Its nice to share your load with someone can understand you, or share a laugh with someone who gets it. Anyone who stands in the way of making it easier for himself or others to do those two things is an ahs-hole (the proper Kiwi pronunciation of the inferior and nasally Midwestern-American "asshole"), in book. 'Aint nothing wrong with SOLO Homo...and the name itself is friggin' hysterical, and lyrical!

Wait. Maybe we could just start a group called Solo Ahs-hole, for those who disagree with the creation of Solo Homo...
(Edited by Scott DeSalvo
on 5/21, 11:09am)

Post 81

Saturday, May 21, 2005 - 6:17pm

Thanks for the support, Scott. Though I wouldn't be me if I let this pass by,

Its nice to share your load with someone can understand you

ROFL!!!

And we did consider calling the our group Solo Ahs-hole, but some folk objected. Imagine. ;-)

Jason

Post 82

Monday, May 23, 2005 - 6:54am

Yee! Usually I am the first to INTEND a pun! You got me!

Post 83

Thursday, May 26, 2005 - 10:39pm

I also wish SOLO Homo great success as an interest group.

I am interested in the experience those of you here have either as homosexual individuals or as interested observers of human sexuality about this: If most (or all) homosexuals are attracted to members of their own sex due to their biochemistry and if most (or all) hetersexuals are attracted only to the opposite sex as a result of their biochemistry, then are there not people who may be attracted to members of both sexes as a result of their biochemistries? We do not have a world in which every man is either less than 5 feet 10 inches tall or more than 6 feet tall. In fact, might there be many such people who feel this dual attraction. As individualists, if there are people with such an identity, should we not both support them and address the issues of their choices on how to achieve happiness in the development of their sexuality?

Perhaps this is too far off topic, especially so early in the history of this interest group, for more than brief replies. I am just wondering how certain everyone is about every man being either taller than 6 feet tall (homo) or shorter than 5 feet 10 inches tall (hetero).

Post 84

Friday, May 27, 2005 - 5:09am

Hey Charles,

What you've described is what I call the "spectrum theory" of sexuality, i.e., that sexual orientation is not either gay, straight, or bi, but rather a continuum on which people may be mostly attracted to the same sex but a little attracted to the opposite, attracted to both fairly powerfully but one a little more than the other, or attracted to both equally.

That's a theory I subscribe to myself. From introspection and conversations I've had with parties honest enough, it seems there's a spectrum. That's not to say the majority isn't still on the end closest to "sexually attracted to the opposite sex with little or no attraction to the same sex."

Feel free to join SOLO Homo (which is open to anyone - gay, straight, bi, or whatever) and bring this topic up for a more in-depth discussion.

Thanks for commenting and the well wishes.

Jason

Post 85

Friday, May 27, 2005 - 8:03am

Charles,

I am an example of the spectrum theory. I fall somewhere in between center and straight. I am more attracted to men, but enough attracted to women to have enjoyed dating them in the past and to miss them now that I am married.

By the way, good to see you here from the ObjectivistParenting list. Have you joined the parenting forum here yet?

Kelly

Post 86

Friday, May 27, 2005 - 10:03am

Jason's point is also illustrated in the film biography of sexologist Kinsey.

Kinsey had the theory of a scale of sexuality. He was married with several children.
He had a young male assistant that asked him where on the scale he was on it, and he said he was in the middle. After which they jumped into bed together.

Both Kinsey and his student had sex with men as well as women.

I am not to sure whether or not I agree with his sliding scale theory, because the behaviour of Kinsey and his student does not seem to be that common as far as I can tell.

Most people are usually either straight or gay. Bisexuality does not seem as common as it would be with the sliding scale sexuality model.

Post 87

Friday, May 27, 2005 - 11:27pm

Jason, thanks for introducing me to your theory. We seem to be on the same page here. I joined SOLO Homo tonight. I am very interested in sexuality and trying to further develop my understanding of my own sexuality, as well as that of others. Such an understanding needs to start with knowing who you are attracted to and why. Most people do not think about their sexuality very much, but I expect the members of SOLO Homo will prove to be thoughtful people. I am looking forward to talking to you all.

Hi Kelly, I did just join SOLO Parenting tonight. I will soon read the posts there. I enjoyed our exchange on the Objectivistparenting list, but soon knew that I liked you too much to enjoy having a few differences of opinion on what to tell our children about sex. Thanks for your welcome here.

Post 88

Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 3:30am